Deadlines

So, I've met a bunch of women who have utilized deadlines to make their lives more sane. I personally have set a date on when I can make this whole situation I've been experiencing a legitimate part of my life. My friend Artemis has told her muse that they will not be having sex until August 1st, at which time they will decide where their relationship is headed. Another friend, Matilda had to give her Turkish-Muslim boyfriend of six years a deadline to choose whether or not he wants to marry her, and thus, cause distress in his relationship with his parents forever.

I think when you're dating someone casually, and one of you is not really happy with the progress, setting a deadline is ideal. If you want something to go somewhere, you need to know when to say "stop" or "go". If you've set a date for this evaluation, you can feel confident in knowing that you gave yourself a certain number of weeks or months before coming to a conclusion. It also forces people to move away from that stagnant state of nothingness or to just jump ship completely.

Besides moving something forward, deadlines can also help you take your time. If you decided not to do something until a certain date, it allows to you experience a situation with control. You have space. You have sanity. For someone like me, who is continually a fool rushing in, this makes me feel like people have less grounds to judge me. And BY THE WAY, cut it out! I had no intention of these things happening, but by some weird fucked up trick of fate, it did. I thank whoever is in charge for making it happen, but now, people are not happy. Artemis said, "Hey, your single girl blog lasted a whole week. Good job". Artemis, meet you in the underworld. But if you need a scapegoat, I'm all yours.